When Life Gives You Lemons

You know the saying, “When it rains it pours?” Well its monsoon season here in Courtney Land. And I say that with a smile on my face. As I was doing my affirmations this morning, one really stood out to me, “I am forever grateful for every experience that allows me to see this dedication through.” Notice I didn’t say, “for the positive experiences,” I said, “for every experience.” As I was going through my list of what’s gone “wrong” lately, I reminded myself that this is an opportunity. This is one more chance for me to practice what I teach and to lift myself up the way I ask each of you to do. Every experience is meant for our greater good, if that’s the path we choose.

Lately resistance has been all around me. I am calling to my experience these situations full of tests and lessons. I may or may not be making the “right” choices each moment, but I know that each choice will provide me feedback and what I do with that feedback is the important step for my growth.

Sometimes making a wrong choice is the best thing you can do for yourself because you learn more than if you made a right choice. Knowing what doesn’t work is just as valuable as knowing what does work. Grace for the mis-steps and misfortunes is called for. Allow yourself the latitude to make mistakes and then course correct based on the lessons you’ve learned to move into alignment with what you really want. This is what it means to be human.

Steps to make it better:

So, if you’ve experienced some struggle, if something doesn’t seem to be working in your favor, don’t think, “This stuff doesn’t work, “or “Why does this always happen to me?” Instead choose to see the opportunity for growth that has been put in front of you. First, be grateful for it, this struggle may toss you around, but if you allow it, it will toss you in a better direction. Next, name the emotion. What are you feeling? Third, find the pattern in the problem. When have you been here before, when have you felt this before? If it’s a recurring pattern, then it will continue to reoccur until you clear and heal the limiting belief that is causing it. Fourth, identify the limiting belief that is holding you back. You don’t need to keep experiencing Ground Hog Day over and over again. Step back from the situation and see it from an outside perspective. This will give you the vantage point to see the pattern and recognize the limiting belief. Sometimes this one takes a second set of eyes. Find a trusted friend or counselor who has no agenda and can see things from an objective standpoint. Fifth, once you have the limiting belief, write it down and change it to a supporting belief.

These steps will clear the struggle out of your way so you can move forward in a direction more aligned with your core purpose.

An example of one I was able to turn around 4 years ago:

Limiting Belief: I can’t open a new business because I am working a full-time job already.

Supporting Belief: I will create what I focus on. If I want it and believe in it, I will create the time to make it happen.

 

An example of what I’m working to clear right now:

Limiting Belief: I am not capable of making a sound evaluation of situations from my past.

Supporting Belief: I am a highly intelligent, capable and insightful person who knows my story better than anyone else. My experiences are mine alone and I need neither permission to believe in them nor agreement of them from anyone.  

 

That feels good to say 😊

 

I hope this helps you in some way face a situation you may have been pushing down. Always sending love and light,

Courtney

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